May 2, 2007

life goes on...

"what matters our creative endless toil,
when at a snatch, oblivion ends the coil?"

V's dad moved out of our world on the 15th of last month. but he lived his life the way he wanted to. people may say he ignored his health for his work, but work was what kept him alive. it kept him happy. to me, that is what matters the most. as they say, it's not how u die that matters, it's how u lived.

they also say god gives every person only those many burdens as they can carry. i realized the truth of that saying after seeing my MIL. knowing that u'll never again see the person u've spent over 40 years with is no small task. she's an amazingly strong woman. i've rarely come across anyone who's as practical and as emotional as she is. knowing that she would be okay helped us get back to our routines here.

life sure has changed for all of us. how and to what extent - only time will tell. it's too soon to grasp all of it. but even though we may seemingly move on with our lives, "dad" will be conspicuous by his absence.

9 comments:

L E T A U R E A U said...

Hey raysh,

Sorry to hear bout your father-in-law. Godspeed.

Things have been pretty rough lately. Besides an extremeley bad combo of heavy courses, some issues have cropped up back home. M not sure how long I can chose to ignore m.

Getting back to blogging will be tough until I settle down. But once I do, I'll write a book. Would you like a limited edition, signed copy? Lemme know. :->

rayshma said...

absolutely! wud love a signed copy.

hope everything works out on the home-front. btw, does "settle down" refer to the usual desi context it's used in?

L E T A U R E A U said...

Great! I'll let my publisher know. :P

M not sure wat "settle down" means in the desi context. You see m new to US. And in Germany, there were hardly any Desis to have contexts of their own.

My definition of settling down is to go back home and never step out of it again. Man I miss that country. There's something about it which I cant explain.

rayshma said...

"settle down" in d desi context means getting married if u're single. and having kids if u're married!

i know wot u mean when u say u miss d country... i do too. can't wait to get back! but well, guess there's a time n place for everything. so i shall bide my time for now...

Fuzzylogic said...

Hey,raysh good to have you back and sorry to hear about your father in law. I still can't grasp the enormity of losing parents V must be having a hard time. It must be more harder to your mom in law. Hope you all find strength to deal with the pain and move on. I for one I am glad to see you back dear!

Orchid said...

Rayshma,
My condolences...must be especially hard for V...glad you guys are back to routine, that should help ease the pain.

rayshma said...

heyy fuzzy, orch...
yep... still getting back to normalcy. but it's easier when i think of my MIL and V. i still haven't completely grasped the enormity of d situation for V. maybe that's helping me put on a much braver front than i thought i cud!
anywez... feels good to be back!
thx for being there! :)

svety said...

keep the faith sweetie...thats the only thing that matters...

rayshma said...

thx svety. really. :)