Dec 6, 2007

one of those days...

when i wonder...
:: if i'm not what someone expects me to be, should i let that affect me?
:: should other people's opinionated views affect my perception. of myself. of my reality. of my being...?
:: if i'm happy with myself. if Vin's happy being with me for who i am. shudn't that be enuf? for me... for us?
:: if everybody around me, except Vin, thinks i'm wasting my life. does it mean i really am?

16 comments:

La vida Loca said...

Take care gal. This sounds like an existential crisis.
My Wisdom? If you are truly happy, thats all matters no?

Orchid said...

1) no
2) if it is really "opinionated" , then no
3) you are happy, aren't you??
4) probably not, but give it some thought, why are they saying that??..maybe there is something motivating. Contentment is one thing, but you definitely don't want to stop striving, no??

rayshma said...

loca: u're right! :) and don't worry... not a crisis.. have cleared my head out by now! :) thanks!

orch: was just one of those days when i over-react to something someone says... yeah, am happy. and no, they have no basis for saying i'm wasting my life - except for their perceptions of what i wud like most. guess it's just that people expect u to be what they think u are. sometimes, u're not. they've got to live with it!
and yeah... completely agree with u... that one mustn't stop striving... :) thanks!

RR said...

I may not be old enough to understand but you should relax. The people that have such opinions don't really matter coz if they did they wouldn't have such opinions. All that really matters is you're happy as is Vin. Why rely on people's warped judgments then? :P

RR said...

P.S:My comment on your last post didn't get published... Me sad :(

Born a Libran said...

My $0.02....

What really matters is what you think about yourself and what you are doing to improve yourself in your own little world... It is good to take both criticism and praise with a pinch of salt... Think about it but what really matters is your perception and what you want to do about it at the end... You should know what you are capable of... You should know whether you are maximizing your ability and if not, is it due to some other priority which is more important... And prioritizing is important...

Preethi said...

whew... are you having some profound questions..
Here are some of Kiplings words for you..
"If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;
If all men count with you, but none too much, "
Read the poem in full...
if @ my blog

rayshma said...

rr: thanks, gurl! u're wise enuf for ur years :) and heyy... no comment on prev post recd. i don't ignore ur comments :)
p.s.: HOW did u send me a non-publishable p.s. comment on this post????

libran: prioritized already. am fine now. thanks :)

preethi: that's one of my faves! :) will chepo it from ur blog and save it... hope ya don't mind! :D
and don't worry... me's back to normal *as normal can be* now! :D

Trishna said...

Hey gal,
Did I rub off my sadness to you?
dont think about all these other people who cant seem to accept your choices. you are who you are, how you are-Take it or leave it. As long as you are happy and Vin is happy..thats what counts..:) rest can go to hell :)
So chin up.. and smile :) big hugs from me n A

Fuzzylogic said...

Hey buddy,is everything ok?It really doesn't matter what others say when you and V are happy. So kick those naysayers to the curb and enjoy the weekend.Care for a hot chocolate and some gossip talks?:):)

Compassion Unlimitted said...

cobwebs cleared in the head..thats nice..just keep going ahead..life is one beautiful journey
TC
CU

Thinking aloud said...

whoa!!! serious questions, girl...

i've realised that you spend half your life trying to make everyone happy, there still IS going to be that one person who is going to be unhappy...so experience says many times its worth putting yourself and the immediate ones first...

so smile...and be happy :)

Anand Sarolkar said...

Hota hai...Chalta hai...Duniya hai...

just move on...
(I know...I know...u have already done that) :D

MJS said...

Its a pain that u shd even think such a thing!!!!
Do I need to answer that!!!!!!!

plush said...

hey hey...u shd be u n give the... er..sorry,lemme rephrase that...'ignore' ppl who don't matter..ye...so...say cheese...n have some cheesecake raysh...(yea..i won't try the pep-talk nxt time!)

Pixie said...

Too late to comment?
Cleared those damn cobwebs away? Good girl! :)
Don't bother too much and your happiness matters most and a positive frame of mind always helps...

*sulks off to code some more inane stuff...*