some things happening to some people around me recently, have made me think... how sacred is the bond of "engagement?"
what happens if someone gets engaged to one person and a few months later realizes that he/she is in love with someone else?
is it legitimate for the engaged person to go ahead with the one they "think" they are in "love" with? or should he/she stand by the commitment they've already made?
strange as it may sound, such scenarios do exist. and they seem to be becoming rather common-place of late. or maybe, people're just a lot more public about their private lives now.
wotever the case, when i spoke to V, he seemed to believe that an "engagement" is not very different from a marriage. it's a decision u make. to be together. and as an adult, u are responsible to stand by your own decision and face the consequences. whether u like them or not.
initially, i agreed with him. but after i thought about it - i am, however, in two minds on this one.
i agree that it is a commitment. but i'm not sure what the person who's engaged & then fallen for someone else should do.
as for now, i think he/she has two choices:
a. stick to the commitment they've already made.
b. follow the heart. but first, pls be sure that this is THE one!
there are a lot of trains of thought regarding this one. i've often heard the "u can't trust someone who's going for the better option". bcoz someday, there is going to be a better version of you? and the person can always move on from you to the better version?
well, yeah. understand.
but, does it really make sense to spend the rest of your life with someone you are not in love with?
are relationships really this complicated or do we make them to be so?
i'm really happy i didn't have to take any such decisions! coz honestly, i have no clue what i'd have done!