this is typed directly into blogger.. so if it doesn't make much sense, well... it's my blog, r'ber? it doesn't generally make sense!
was chatting with a friend today. for a rather long time. and my faith in guardian angels was fortified. he has come along at the perfect time with the perfect answers to my seemingly ridiculous questions! we were talking about relationships. and he said 'i want a girl who's hot, who's intelligent, who's sensitive to my needs, who tries to get along with my family, respects her family and who has her own identity'. *this is not quoted. this is the gist of what he said*. and his reason for expecting his girl to be like this was the nicest i've heard from any guy recently. he said, and i quote, "i expect this. because i know i will be all this in return." he also gave me details of how he'd make a good husband!
to be honest, i know u're extremely marriageable A. and if i come across any girl who i think will be right for u - trust me, i will put you in touch with her! :)
he also asked me why girls fall for bad boys. to that, i'll pull out something i'd written long ago.. but didn't publish.
men love repairing things.
ever since i was a child, i'd see dad pulling things apart and putting them back. be it in the garage or around the house. even male friends loved to be the saviour when some gadget wasn't working. this love for repairing however, i've only seen around machines.
we love repairing too. but we focus more on humans. to be more precise, boys. who need repairing. how often have you thought of why girls fall for bad boys? *not that the boy is bad, just that he's bad for her. but that's a different topic.*
it's the thrill of repairing that soul that gets to them. they believe that they can benefit this boy. make him loyal to them. make him give up drinking/smoking. make him stop flirting with every woman who looks at him. make him fall in love with them.
but that doesn't happen, does it? coz u can never change the inherent essence of one's being. u can temporarily mask it. but never change it. also, there must be some girl somewhere who's willing to accept the guy the way he is. with the way he doesn't fold his laundry, with his drinking, with his flirting. maybe even with his physical abuse.. and they will find each other.
then the poor girl finds solace in friends who'd always told her that he wasn't right for her. and eventually, finds another guy who she thinks needs to be fixed. and the saga continues till she realizes that she deserves better. IF she does, that is.
well, nothing that anyone can do about it. but i'd just hope that as girls get smarter, they'd realize their worth. and stop being treated like doormats. u're not god. but u're not crap, either. and it's not difficult to stand up for yourself. u just need to try.
it's like we "need" the good boys. but we "want" the bad ones. and it's rare that we can mark the distinction.
but fret not, you will find your destiny. otherwise, it shall find you.