Jun 20, 2010

what age would you be?

i read somewhere that "women want to remain 16 for the rest of their lives"

and i thought about it... i am a woman. and i don't think so. as in, i don't want to be stuck at 16. (just to be clear!)
in fact, i never wanted to be 16. not when i was 16, and not when i'm 30! why would i want to go back and be 16? ever?
what is so special about 16, anyway? 10th standard exams? the fact that you don't know yourself enough to answer basic questions like "who am i?"
heck, i didn't even know what 'true friends" are. i was naive, rather insecure about myself... somewhat stupid and in a hurry to grow up. but i think that the most stupid thing about me was that i thought i was smart. and therein, lay my ridiculousness.

i did have dreams and aspirations, the arrogance of making life turn my way, yes.. but did not have the knowledge or the assurance that life is life. you can will it to a certain extent... but mostly, you go with the flow and make the best of the cards that are dealt to you.

maybe that's just me. and maybe the rest of you were absolutely fabulous individuals when you were 16. but i've only gotten better. maybe coz i couldn't have deteriorated ;)

anyhoo... if there were an age i'd like to be stuck at... it would be 25, for me.
i knew myself. i knew my strengths, my limitations... my dreams and my aspirations. i looked good, i felt good. and i was finally at ease with myself. i knew the difference that separated my friends and people who pretended to be my friends.. though i'm still figuring that one out... but still, i think i was okay at 25.

yeah, i'm slow. i know. it took me 25 years to get to that place where i could say "i'm okay". but heyy, i got there. and i realized, it only gets better.

what age would you be stuck at if you had to be...?

17 comments:

Titaxy said...

totally with you on the whole 16 thing...i would never want to go back to my teenage years :D for me, 23-now works...i've been independent, have learned a lot, have grown and matured, and what not...so 23+ it is. :)

SEV said...

You're past 30?

Christ, thats old.

:P

rayshma said...

sev: yeah, it is. don't worry, you'll get there... in time. and hopefully, you'll pick up some wisdom along the way as well. ;)

titaxy: yeah, it's smart to not want to be a teenager i think! :D

PURN!MA said...

naah.. no sweet 16 for me either. just like u sed I wudn't wanna go thru the boards again. I would like to stick to being 19 and 25. 2 time slots. 19 cz I was in college... in BM with only tension of getting decent scores in exams. and 25 for the reasons that u have mentioned.

Roli Bhushan-Malhotra said...

R: 16 IS way too young, I agree! I'd like to be 24- I guess that's when my life progressed further with future clarity. Anyways, age ain't nothing but a number & you are only as old as you believe in your heart.. blah blah...

Prashanti :) said...

I never ever wish I could go back and relive some part of my life and that want to be stuck at age hasn't come by yet for me :(

Prashanti :) said...

I never ever wish I could go back and relive some part of my life and that want to be stuck at age hasn't come by yet for me :(

Anonymous said...

Is this re-posted? I am getting a whole deja-vu vibe out of reading this!

16.. no way. I'm 23 forever. :D

~alice

DewdropDream said...

I don't know what 30 is like but maybe that's the right age for me to be stuck at, seeing as how I'm still doing a lot of growing up.

Arpita said...

I too think 25-27 is a nice age for a woman to be in. Of course only if you are single :p

rayshma said...

arpita: i think 25 is too soon to be married. but then, that's just me! :D

dewey: the growing up never stops. it shouldn't, rather. i'm still learning a lot too...

alice: not re-posted... but i'm not sure i've not done an identical post before... that's another thing that happens with age... memory loss ;)

prashanti: naah, i wouldn't want to go back either... doesn't make sense... i'd rather move forward. living once, is enough :)

roli: totally agree. i think 16 is a silly age! when we think we know it all, but know nothing really! :D
i think i can see why you like 24. 24 was way too much change for me, i think.... i grew up a lot between 24 and 25... had a make-over of sorts almost. but then, you know that! :)

purnima: yayy... u're back to blog!? hmm... 19 was good too... good memories :)

Pavi!!!! said...

RayRay: 24-25 is the age I wld LOUVEEEEEEEEEEE to be stuck at too. N I swear im not just copying u.

.’coz …by then I had learnt that breakups(with bfs or best friends) n any other mishap was NOT the end of the world, ‘coz I realized that perfection is an illusion, it doesn’t exist, ‘coz I LOVED how short I was and it wasn’t sumthing that made me feel any-less confident abt myself, ‘coz looks was not one of the most imp things in the world, ‘coz when I wasn’t invited to a party I wanted to be at I felt sorry for the organizer’s loss, ‘coz I was earning, ‘coz I spent my money in a sensible manner, ‘coz I cld buy ppl I love gifts that I wanted to gift them, ‘coz I found it funny that I once had a laundry-list of qualities the man I marry should have, ‘coz I didn’t have to get permission to do what I wanted to, ‘coz the future was a puzzle but I knew I’d do just alright!

N I don’t want to be stuck at 16..’coz all of the above was opposite!

Thanks for the food for thought…I loved commenting on this post!

rayshma said...

pavi: i love your reasons! i think you put it across better than i did! :)

Galadriel said...

I don't ever want to be stuck at any single age. Every phase of life comes with its own experiences and I would like to accept and experience all of them with the right mindset. :)

la vida loca said...

I dont want to be stuck. The best day is today and the best time is now,

Pixie said...

I'd rther be 25, 27 or 30! :D
30 has been fine so far.. so yea! :D
not 16! ugh! I hated that age...

Madhu Gopalan said...

I'm 26 now...and im as clueless about what i want as i was at 16...i think 30 will be a good age to be stuck at :)