Jun 23, 2010

friends to strangers

when friends drift away, it hurts.
over time, i've come to accept it as just one of those other inevitable things that life throws at you.

it's strange. when you think u're "friends". when you believe, with all your heart, that you connect. that you 'get' each other. you share laughter and tears. and you believe that you mean as much to them as they do to you.
and then, suddenly... just like that, the person changes. so much, that you realize - eventually - that you can't relate to the new person. maybe it's not an overnight change.. maybe, while you're busy ignoring "silly signs", the other person is changing. and you refuse to believe the change, refuse to see that your friend is drifting away from you.
the proximity, the "friendship", it all disappears. and you wonder what happened. what happened that the person changed so much.

i don't think its the person changing. i think you never really knew them.
and you keep trying... to find your friend in the new stranger. not knowing that they're no longer there. it's a brand new person. and unfortunately, you don't relate to the new person anymore.
yes, you know all of this. but it still hurts. and you still wish your friend would come back.

9 comments:

Lavs said...

so true..so very true..i have lost so many people like that....sigh!

Anonymous said...

Sounds too much like something I had written about ages ago. One never really gets over friends becoming strangers, I think.

*hugs*

~alice

Galadriel said...

happens only too often to me. but i will not move away. i will stick around and make sure you are a tortured soul until you beg and plead for mercy that i may move away!! :D :D

Prashanti :) said...

I think I like Galadriel's method. I just give them the royal ignore publicly and mope around privately :( :(

Prashanti :) said...

I think I like Galadriel's method. I just give them the royal ignore publicly and mope around privately :( :(

Prashanti :) said...

I think I like Galadriel's method. I just give them the royal ignore publicly and mope around privately :( :(

Roli Bhushan-Malhotra said...

Yeah I know the feeling! Then you start wondering if they are friends by chance or circumstance...

Pavi!!!! said...

i know exactly what ur talking about....thru the 2nd para..i kept noddin my head in agreement.

i don't know if i agree with this tho : "i don't think its the person changing. i think you never really knew them."
i mean...one can't be such an opp of what they have been w/o hvg changed u know.

But ya...its better to move on n let the person be..instead of hold onto the relp for past reasons. atlst in my experience.

Monsieur K said...

hv u watched 'wake up sid'?
thr's a scene in tht movie when ranbir is karaoking... his college buddy is lookin at him, tellin a gal tht his frnd has changed.. n she asks him, "tumhe buraa nahin lagtaa.." and he's like "haan, buraa lagtaa hai.. but i'm happy for him" :)

was reminded of tht scene when i read this.. happens too often.. well written :)