plus five

prats tagged me to do the 5 things abt me... and considering she's blogged after all these months only to tag me, i shall do it. also, it indulges the vain me! :D
so, here's 5 things abt me, in no particular order of importance.

- i expect a lot from ppl who i'm really close to. but it's never more than what i would do for the person. it's almost always 50-50.
though, the closer you are to me, the more i tend to take u for granted. sure u'll know how much you mean to me. but i expect you to u'stand when i disappear for a while... and re-emerge. i expect you to continue where we left off. and not sulk and whine. i also give you the same space. and if i do anything to upset you, i WILL make up for it. however best i can.

- i believe that all of us, as humans, are extremely selfish. we evaluate pros and cons of most situations and if we think something may be detrimental for us, we avoid it. there are exceptions. but very few act out of their love for random mankind. we bother about "me and mine" mostly.
and i don't think it is a wrong thing. i accept the fact that i am self-absorbed and move on. unless i manage me and my world properly, how can i think of contributing to anything larger...?

- i believe relationships are very complex. and every r'ship has it's own dynamic. i don't take moral stand-points on r'ships and/or affairs anymore. i used to. till very recently. i believe i've come a long way from being a judgemental bitch to understanding that there may be hues that i neither see nor comprehend. and i leave them be. i no longer think of ppl who put themselves down for their partners as doormats. or ppl who have affairs while in a stable r'ship as bitches/bastards. they have their own reasons. i simply don't judge. and i don't know how long this non-judgemental phase will last - but this is as close as i get to saintly! :D

- i know that i will not lose my individuality. i used to be insecure about this. quite a bit. esp when i had just got married. but now i'm sure. it's something that's me. it may change... it may get better or worse. but it will still, quintessentially, be me.

- how patient i am about something depends directly on how beneficial that thing is to me. at least, how beneficial I perceive it to be for me. which is why i seem to lose interest in things rather soon. however, if i really want something, i can be extremely tenacious. to the point of being a pain in the backside for everybody around me. such things are rather few, but they're absolutely worth it!

i also have dottie's domestic horror tag to do... will get to it in a bit.

now, doing guest posts.

since, it's not enough to restrict the madness to this space, we shall continue it here.
if any of are actually entertained by inane bollywood-like stories... do hop over and read the desi-ized story of nero.
in parts. because picture abhi baaki hai, mere dost...

problem-solving music

issue:

one of the boys that stay upstairs, plays the tabla *or something that sounds like it* THRU the day. and really late into the night. i don't know what he does for a living or how he survives. but it's rather silent here... and the noise annoys me.

usually, i ignore it. but i've been home alone and have enough difficulty falling asleep without that irritating noise!

also, normally, i'm rather forgiving. but the reason i now p'larly do not like these boys is that they shoved stuff down the kitchen sink and clogged up the entire line; affecting mine, of course. and i had to run around looking for maintenance ppl - coz apparently, they only care abt the music, not backed-up sinks or roaches! but that issue's been taken care of by the maintenance guy who came by last time. so, coming to the current problem of too much tabla noise...

possible solutions:

a. go upstairs and tell them to keep it down.

b. call the main offc and complain. so, they can send a huge guy to warn them and/or stick a notice on their door.

c. go upstairs and stick a post-it on their door.

excuses for not doing any of the above: i'm not whiny. i AM lazy and don't wanna climb up stairs or change and go out. it's too hot to go outside in the day. i don't want to go knocking on strange boys' doors at night when i'm alone. and i prefer solving my problems myself.

so, my solution:

after two days of tolerance, i play himesh. non-stop.

from 8.30 a.m to 7.30 p.m.

then, i pause the playlist and take the trash out. when i realize that it has already borne results.

result: he has stopped playing. and has stuck a post-it on our door saying "sorry if we were noisy"

well... peace. and i hope they don't start off again, or i'll have to find himesh's version of gayatri mantra and play it real loud early in the morng.

for 'better' or for 'worse'?

after a really genuine attempt at seizing the cheese fries out of vin's hand... i failed. i don't take that very nicely - not winning, that is. so i did what i do best. i used the claws.
and then, i did what i do next best. i made puppy faces, so he won't get too bugged. *yeah, that still works - depending on the seriousness of the damage.*

he looks at the gash, then at me. and quips:
"thank god you're the better half. wonder WHAT would happen if you were the worse."

so crazy. so honored.

badge of honor bestowed upon Her Royal Madness. *ME!!!!!!*


just when i was beginning to believe that madness is a quality seldom appreciated... this is what my beloved dewey mailed me today. and then followed up till i did this post.
but honestly... me LOUVE! both, dewey AND the badge. and all of you. who encourage the madness! :)

p.s.: all the words above the badge are hers.

tag-of-the-month

since i have nothing intelligent or inane to say, i was gonna flick this tag from loca. but before i could do it, prashanti tagged me. so here...

1. When you looked at yourself in the mirror today, what was the first thing you thought?
my hair's not as bad as i think it is!

2. How much cash do you have in your wallet right now?
$7 and 45 GBPs. i had to find my wallet for this, u know?!

3. What’s a word that rhymes with DOOR?
floor.

4. Who is the 4th person on your missed call list on your cell phone?
i dunno. i think it's one of those "i have a special announcement" kinda calls which i don't bother answering.

5. What is your favorite ring tone on your phone?
real tone: "pls pick up the phone, will ya pls pick up the phone?"
ex-personal fave: real-tone of "aye chhori... zara nachke dikha"
NEVER failed to make me smile when my phone rang!

6. What are you wearing right now?
i'm a very private person. i refuse to answer this! :D

7. Do you label yourself?
i don't understand labels wrt humans. i DO label boxes when we're shifting though.

8. Name the brand of the shoes you currently own?
ALL the shoes i own? i don't think so!
the ones lying here are aldo ankle boots and black reebok sneakers.

9.Bright or Dark Room?
dark.

10. What do you think about the person who took this survey before you?
prashanti: interesting.
loca: one of my oldest blog-pals! really like this one! :)

11. What does your watch look like?
a mobile phone. that's what it looks like.
the wall clock is square and has a rooster on it.

12. What were you doing at midnight last night?
cleaning the dishes before going to sleep.

13. What did your last text message you received on your cell say?
i don't get text mesgs. and i don't r'ber what the last text i got 3 years ago said.

14. What’s a word that you say a lot?
maaaoowwww... or meoowwww... or miaooowww... you get the point, right?

15. Who told you he/she loved you last?
technically, minal.
but a few mins before that... dewey. and when dewey was told that minal beat her at the tag, here's what she said:
"dammit
no she cannot

I LAUUUUUUUUVVVVVVVEEEEEEEE YOUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU

maine chillake bola

I win"

so.. there... also, dewey wins coz she tells me she loves me at least 3 times a day. everyday. :)

16. Last furry thing you touched?
eh? my niece's stuffed toy, maybe. i dunno.

17. Favourite age you have been so far?
now's the best time.

18. What was the last thing you said to someone?
in person? seee yaaa... to vin.
online: "muah!" to dewey.

19.The last song you listened to?
rishte... life in a metro.

20. Where did you live in 1987?
at home.

21. Are you jealous of anyone?
erm... no. i'm too self-absorbed to notice anyone else in that much detail.

22. Is anyone jealous of you?
i wouldn't know. are you?

23. Name three things that you have on you at all times?
engagement ring, clothes, footwear.

24. What’s your favourite town/city?
Mumbai.

25. When was the last time you wrote a letter to someone on paper and mailed it?
no clue! i think when i was at mica, i wrote a paper-waala letter. can't r'ber to whom, though.

26. Can you change the oil on a car?
theoretically, yes. practically, never tried. *i'm theoretically purrfect, u see*

27. Your first love/big crush: what is the last thing you heard about him/her?
i don't even r'ber my first crush. *gosh! i'm old!!*

28. Does anything hurt on your body right now?
no. nothing hurts.

29.What is your current desktop picture?
a picture of cottages at saranac lake in winter.

30. Have you been burnt by love?
no. not been "burnt" by anything.

what do you do...

...when u realize that someone you were talking to was trying... really trying, to annoy you. and is now annoyed themselves. bcoz you didn't get annoyed.
in fact, you didn't even realize the attempt. but then, it's been brought to your attention by a mutual friend. and u're amused, at the most. by how much effort ppl need to put in simply to annoy you. and fail to understand why it would be worth the effort.

what do you do, then? do you...
a. go ahead and remain unaffected... annoying the person who was trying to annoy you.
or
b. pretend to be annoyed and let the person be happy with their cheap thrills.

hmm... the nonsensical quirks of human beings!

edited to add:
here's what i do: i blog about it, knowing fully well that said friend reads this space. and is going to be more annoyed now. THAT is how I get my cheap thrills. sulk not, my friend! such is life! :)