'catch' me if you can?

when i'm traveling or away for a while, i often tend to forget to call vin. it's not that i don't miss him. it's just that i don't like the phone much. and even if i call, it's cursory and to-the-point. i prefer telling him in person. 

he's been my opposite, so far, where it comes to calling. if he had a one-stop flight, he'd even call from the stop and let me know he had a good/bad flight and he was hopping onto the next. and of course, i would tease him and call him a little boy.. but well, that's another topic! 

but then, everything changes. this time when he's off. i've been nagging him every couple hours. while he has made his absence rather conspicuous by the lack of phone calls! even when i'd called, i got replies in monosyllables or single sentences.  

later, five phone calls later, he called...  

vin: just got to the hotel. it's... 

me: what took u SO long, eh?! 

vin: eh? it's 2.30? how long should it take?

me: oh. different timezone... 

vin: yeah.. lissen, if the net's not working, u can use dial-up, okay?  

me: net's fine. i'll be okay. 

vin: okay... talk to u later, then. bye. 

okay bye???

that is all i get for calling?! 

sigh! i now know how it feels to be on the other side of the coin. 

i'm not so irked by the lack of calls... as i said, i am not much of a call person myself. what bothers me is the fact that HE was the one who believed in calling. and now, i've gone ahead and affected his programming.  

oh geez! i'm contagious...! 

wonder what he'll catch next! 

same-same, but different

i wanted to use this title since i saw b'bay to bangkok.. dunno why. just another idiotic thing that stuck in my head! :D

some people influence ur life. in ways that they don't know. something like that seems to have happened with me and suruchi's hubby, ashish. neither of us knew that he'd influenced me in any way! not till i decided whom to marry at least. THEN, we realized how like him Vin was. and suruchi and i got a brand new topic to bitch about.

here's why we think our once extremely marriageable husbands *no, they're not available now!* are mele-mein-bichde-hue bhai!

:: they're both born in april. *it's ashish's happy bud-day today... wish him y'all!*
:: both needed a tutorial to scrap on orkut. they still rely on their wives' to upload/change pics there.
:: both don't see the big deal about getting married. they can't understand commitment phobia. *from men, or women.*
:: neither knows how to upload songs on a shuffle/iPod. :D
:: they do NOT speak while eating. they believe that food must be focussed upon. *yeah, rule out candle-lit dinners!*
:: they can't multi-task. hmm... eating while talking is also multi-tasking, u see.
:: they both have receding hairlines. *they blame it on their wives. but i have proof that vin had a receding hairline prior to marrying me!*
:: they both aspire to have long, flowing, rock-star tresses.
:: their alter-ego is that of a rock-star. yeah, reality hits home very frequently when u have wives like us! :D
:: they indulge their wives. not because they have to, but coz they like to. *that's what we like to believe!*
:: they are romantics at heart, but have no clue how this sentiment can be conveyed to us. actually, they don't see the need for conveying. it's there. that should be enough, no? NO!
:: they don't flirt or ogle at other women. they don't comprehend when any woman flirts with them. they report incidents back home to the respective wife who THEN tells them that maybe the woman was hitting on them! then, of course we login and bitch about them! LOL!
:: they can't understand how we could earn a living by selling mobile content.
:: they don't understand the affinity to the cult. *mine's better in this case. he has cured me of the bonding to a large extent!*
:: they were both extremely patient even during the weddings. i would have slapped the next person who came up for a pic while i was starving!! i'm sure suruchi would have too! :D
:: they believe that suruchi & me talking regularly can only lead to trouble! :D *vin's actually scared of suruchi!*
:: they wake up at unearthly hours like 7a.m. even on holidays and/or weekends!!!! while their wives can sleep till noon, if allowed. sigh!
:: they think their wives are VERY tech savvy! LOL!!!
:: they give in to persistent nagging about seeing really bad hindi movies. and sit thru the movie - comments & all - and actually smile at the end of it! *yeah, it's more out of relief that the movie's over*
:: their wives love dancing, while they insist they have two left feet!
:: that song from the old raj kapoor movie, sangam: "main kya karu ram, mujhe buddha mil gaya" would be a perfect fit for them both! :D

it's uncanny how alike they are! suruchi, if i've missed out on things, leave a comment, i'll add it here...
all said & done, putting up with us can be a task at times. here's a toast to the fact that you both understand that you really can't do anything about it now! :)

**edited to add ashish's comment. my comments on the comment in italics.

Hey i want to add my comment here...since i am the person being talked about ...and some things should be clarified for ppl who are going to read this blog:

1. I don't own ipod, never did, nor someone close to me ever did (i move among the non tech, non cool guys and gals) so its incorrect to assume at this point of time that i wont know how to upload a song. *that was just an example. do u know how to set customized RBTs, eh? mobile toh u have, rite?! :P excuses!*
2. I dont focus on food....i pray to it. i have had so many terrifying experiences when food is concerned that a good meal is worth praying to (before we have any smart comments on this, Suruchi cooks good food) *candle-light dinners are supposed to be romantic, u know! u shud relax. and TALK to ur wife! WHILE eating.*
3. Our wives are solely to blame on our receding hairline. No matter what Reshma says...and Vin will agree. *i have photographic evidence that this is not true. at least for vin. shall wait for suruchi to comment on urs!*
4. Suruchi not working on a particular day is more troublesome than suruchi and reshma talking *LOL! completely agree!*

Suruchi's comments. the last one's a classic. *
1.Neither of them understand Bong...we do :)
2.On receding hair line...even i have evidences and eye witnesses to prove my innocence.
3.On I-pod,ashu will look at it ,turn it around and say...isme song kaha se upload karte hai..LOL!

i think i should send this to vin... :0)

aww.../ DAMN!!!

suma tagged me here to write 10 things i hate about men.
honestly, i don't really 'hate' anything. nothing that's ToM at least. but suma, being her kind self, allows me to spice it up!
so, instead of generalizing this and writing about things i hate about men & mankind... i shall write about 5 things that really annoy me about d man i live with! and 5 things i really like. yeah, yeah, about living with him.

so off i go
things that make me go "DAMN!!!"
i. the mess: u don't have to be supremely intelligent or get your PhD to keep your clothes back where they came from or dump them in, and i mean, IN the laundry basket. same for keeping the plates in the sink, socks in the laundry basket, toothbrush(es) back in d holder and so on. u get the drift? and pls! don't put the darned wet towel on the bed!

ii. multi-tasking. or the lack of it: why on earth can't u chat with 3 friends, look for jobs on 2 sites, read blogs, comment on blogs, check mail, talk to me, have breakfast, work on assignment, watch t.v. and play boggle simultaneously?

iii. driving: getting mad at me while "teaching" me to drive doesn't help either of us. remember that "understanding" clause that every girl has on her wish-list for a man? time to put it to use. "understand" that i'm bound to do stupid things. if i didn't, i wouldn't still be learning, would i? i'd be a pro. and probably be zooming around instead of writing this. and no, only because i know the theory perfectly, doesn't mean i am good with practicals. u should know - i'm theoretically perfect. at everything!

iv. cooking: i KNOW u cook well. u taught me, r'ber? but i would really appreciate if you restrict this to weekend breakfasts ONLY. clearing up is not my favorite chore. if it were, we'd get a dog.

v. dishes: about that weekend breakfast? u know, it's REALLY not mandatory to use every utensil in the house to make breakfast. just because i like doing dishes doesn't mean i want to wash them all on the weekends!

now, to things that i go "aww..." about.
vi. cooking: i absolutely LOVE the initiative. most men i know think that if their wives are unemployed, they "should" cook. not u! makes me feel proud of u. till i see the mess, at least! :) also, more than anything, i LOVE the way u like anything i cook! i know it can't all be good. but u seem to actually like it. makes me want to cook.

vii. driving: i love the way u don't stereotype women as bad drivers bcoz ur wife is so disinclined towards driving well!

viii. in sickness & in health: maybe i hadn't ever fallen ill coz it's no fun to be ill and alone. it's reassuring that u're there. and u'll take care of me when i'm not feeling well. physically or emotionally.

ix. connectivity: never told u this, but i really appreciate how "free, hi-speed internet" featured so very high on ur list when we were apartment hunting. esp since u knew u weren't going to get to use it.

x. free entertainment: almost all my friends think that YOU get free entertainment. little do they know how entertaining you can be. i'm never bored when u're home. be it conversations, impromptu jigs or ur singing... very appreciated!

there! that's it! now, i shall run & hide and hope V doesn't read any of this! while u out there... go, do the tag if u wish! give it ur own twist... or do the original if u wish.

thank god for gmail!

i am not the usual wife. i don't nag V over the phone. i usually avoid nagging him, in fact! but there are days when i HAVE to! the 'HAVE to' could be coz of a couple of reasons. like me having to tell him something, me wanting to bitch about someone, me confused over what to make for dinner, or me feeling d urge to trouble him. but i don't like calling. *if u've been reading this blog, u'd know my inherent dislike for the usage of a telephone for anything other than work!* so like a good husband, Vin mails me every day from work. once in the morning. then, when he takes a lunch break. *yeah, he's very cute n all. rite!*

i didn't get any mail yesterday. and it was almost his lunch hour. so i sent in a polite reminder mail saying "my mail?!?"

an hour passed. no reply. two hours. still no reply. now, if u know me, u would know that i'd be really irritated at this non-responsive and irresponsible behaviour. *i'm a drama queen. rite!*

so i went back, *to my inbox, of course* clicked compose, typed V in the "to:", pressed enter, skipped subject line and typed in the message: "how dare u not mail me?! now have lunch and mail me. pronto!!" and promptly clicked on send.

if i were in outlook, this mail would've gone thru. subject line, or none.

but, BCOZ i'd skipped out the subject, and bcoz i use gmail, *ONLY bcoz* the kindly virtual soul warily asked me "send without subject?" and THEN fortunately, for everyone concerned, i checked the recipient id. it wasn't addressed to MY Vin, but d Vin who heads my ex-organization's current US office! based in NY. and THIS would have been a little past HIS lunch hour. geez.

for a minute, i was tempted to click send anyways. JUST to scandalize d other vin. but then, i've decided to try and be less wicked this year. so i let it be.
of course, i resent the mail with the correct id to the correct recipient with a subject line of : "non-receipt of daily mail"

did i tell u, i love gmail?!